Anonymous asked: In your latest post about therapy spankings - do you feel like the author is condoning childish behaviour just to warrant a little pleasure because she is to 'submissive' to ask for it?
That is a pretty interesting question. I don’t actually know the author so i can’t speak for her or her lover but i do have some thoughts on the matter.
Every relationship is different. Spankings aren’t only enjoyed by specific subsects of the sexual culture - a completely vanilla - equal power in the bedroom - couple can enjoy a little spanking, both for him and for her.
Personally, spankings are the audubon to subspace for me. I get a very real sense of release and clarity. I’ve recognized that i literally need the adrenaline release that comes with a little rough spanking, and i’m totally ok with that - assuming my partner is too.
I wouldn’t condone bad behaviour just to get a spanking, but sometimes the game is nice, and if your partner knows you, they’ll immediately recognize when you are acting out simply to get a reward spanking. Reward spankings are totally different than therapy spankings for me.
Reward spanking: I know you you want this because of xyz reason and i want to make you happy so i’m going to oblige you and spank the living daylights out of you.
Thearpy spanking: I know you well enough to know that you say you don’t want this, but this is actually what you NEED to cry it out a little bit so i’m going to spank the living daylights out of you and then cuddle the fuck out of you.
Sometimes I think you live in my head.“I know you well enough to know that you say you don’t want this, but this is actually what you NEED to cry it out a little bit”
THIS. This is so important.